This is one of my favorite quotes. Maybe I’ve posted it before, I can’t remember. If you don’t speak Spanish, it basically says that if we would exaggerate our joys the way we do our sorrows, our problems wouldn’t matter.
I’ve been struggling with something at work. Someone, to be more precise. If I let myself complain about this person I have to admit it feels pretty good. But afterwards I find myself all worked up, dwelling on things that make me unhappy. I would much rather dwell on things that make me happy! I also find myself exaggerating. Not on purpose. I thinking I’m a pretty honest, straight forward person, but it’s easy to get worked up about something upsetting.
So what is my point? Whenever I start to complain about something I am stopping to ask myself “Is it really that bad? Really?” Also “is it going to matter one year from now?” It’s tough though, especially when I feel justified in my frustration. But I guess that’s sort of the point.
I printed out this quote and keep it in my wallet. It helps and I’m trying.
“Perhaps the greatest charity comes when we are kind to each other, when we don’t judge or categorize someone else, when we simply give each other the benefit of the doubt or remain quiet. Charity is accepting someone’s differences, weaknesses, and shortcomings; having patience with someone who has let us down; or resisting the impulse to become offended when someone doesn’t handle something the way we might have hoped. Charity is refusing to take advantage of another’s weakness and being willing to forgive someone who has hurt us. Charity is expecting the best of each other.”
Marvin J. Ashton
Maybe you’re better at handling unpleasant situations/people than I am. How do you do it??
In happier news my Mission President added me as a friend on Facebook. I LOVE IT!
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